They have been separated for 2. I can't understand why is he hiding her information to me. He may prematurely commit to that relationship, without resolving his internal conflict first. I have gotten off many times, and stupidly get back on after promises. They and I have stayed close through marriages, the births of children, divorce and near-divorce, the deaths of siblings and parents. Now my husband wants a divorce because of that and we share a 2 year old, I just feel that they are old enough.
I told him that if he was in my shoes, he would feel the same way I did. If he loved you he would have said to his ex, here's the dogs I'm moving on with whatever your real name is. They live across the country from each other, but when they visit their college age child or have to be in the other's city for business, they stay at each other's home. Like the other day some guy from a bank called and he thought I was the wife so he told me that both he and the ex both recently took out a loan. I can say without a doubt that if I didn't have kids from my ex she would never cross my mind.
Instead of forcing the issue, nicely ask what is stopping him from filing for divorce. I moved out last year — I was done repairing and committed to move on. The woman is an adult and she is probably 50% responsible for that divorce. I told him I don't do baby mama or baby daddy because it's nothing but drama. I really don't mind them being friends, I like her pretty much, but don't trust her. If I take my husband back I know there are many women who would think I stole him but he never left in the first place, he has been hanging on since the divorce.
We have children together so I go to her house regularly. When he mentioned that he'd like us to move in together, he wanted it to be into his home, which is just around the corner from his ex-wife. I never married a man because of his looks or anything he had. I would try doing so in a tactful way. So I decided to break up with him but he is still saying it was urgent that is why he did that. Frank and Ava, the great crooner and the Hollywood star, were dining quietly in an unassuming New York restaurant and my first husband, jazz pianist Robin Douglas-Home, and I had been invited, too.
He has set no boundaries with scheduling with kids…etc. Maybe you will find different advice here, but I hope you find what's right for you. You situation is difficult because it sounds like you were blindsided by her decision to divorce. That's not healthy for you emotionally or physically. It sounds like you feel threatened by his ex, and I think that's the real issue here.
I was literally only separated for a day hoping that my husband might be willing to do his part in the marriage after separating since he wasn't willing to when we are together. . Hi Jen, Thank you so much for reaching out. The 13 year old knows what's going on, he or she is probably doing more then you and your boyfriend. In the midst of a separation, especially if many other people want that relationship to keep going, he may be overwhelmed with indecision and unable to see clearly what is best. I have not been invited very oftern only when I invited myself. I called the police and they became involved when these things never happened before.
Bottom line is how your guy deals with the ex. If she is the first person he thinks of to tell of a death or birth in the family. I'm scared to lose him but at this point, I'm worried about me. Since most divorces are initiated by women, hypothetically at least, there may be a lot of reasonably good men who want to be married and will hook up quickly. He wants to know things about her love relationships. If you feel she enjoys her position in his life, and she is taking your relationship hostage. Look, no one in their right minds would ever give us a fighting chance at this point.
I feel it's wrong because he is still married but i dont want to lose him on the other hand. He was more concerned about his ex's financial issue than giving you the courtesy of consultation. I was literally only separated for a day hoping that my husband might be willing to do his part in the marriage after separating since he wasn't willing to when we are together. Too many time on peoples hand. Just them ending up miserable without anything bad actually happening would have been fine. Then I came along and messed that up for her. He spent last weekend in a hotel with her cause they took their sons to Disney.
You need to put him in check. She spent 18 months trying to get a disability retirement from her employer. Often, if he's keeping information about his ex to himself, he secretly believes there's a chance they'll get back together, and he doesn't want you to know too much about her, or know her. After four years, it seems very unlikely that you and she will end up getting back together. The situation you describe doesn't always lead to abuse.
That is not my plan at all. She needs to get her own life and not depend on him so much. I was married to an addict also and he was just as much of a manipulator as she is. And she uses the kids as leverage constantly. Especially if you are independent, he may feel that you will not need him or stay with him. This is why I often find myself sympathising — unfashionably, I suppose — with the Kates of this world.