Someone who has long nails, or someone with dirty hands can transmit bacteria to you, and that could lead to medical problems. Also if it starts itching could be a yeast infection. A female reader, , writes 10 January 2010 : The first time i got fingered was last year when i was a freshman in college. A female reader, anonymous, writes 7 March 2010 : Well ok I got fingered recently and it did quite hurt, but it's bareable. You or a partner can get their fingers involved during intercourse, too, if that feels good to you.
I'm still a virgin, but everyone says sex is what realllly hurts the first time. You'll notice I left room there in case this just isn't something you really want to do or explore. Well it depends what satisfies you as a person. I imagine hers hurt a lot more than mine. We all get to have our preferences and we all get to seek out sexual relationships that really work with our individual sexualities, and walk away from any that don't. Having sex for the first time is a big deal. And while he was doing it, i kinda moaned and stuff.
You get to like what you like and not like what you don't, whether those likes are lifelong or shift over time, and whether those likes are the same as someone else's or different. Be sure that you are wet enough, he can do that by stimulating your clitoris. Something very core to healthy, happy human sexuality and sexual lives is an acceptance that we don't all like the same things, or everything equally, and room always being made for our sexual diversity. If you don't feel really excited about doing something sexual, just don't do whatever that thing is until or unless your feelings change. This is one of several reasons why so many folks with vaginas -- not all, but a substantial majority -- don't reach from intercourse alone, and why plenty just don't find it to be their favorite thing ever, , especially all by itself.
My gf doesn't complain because I always cut my fingernails so I wont cut any part of her body. You can also direct him with your hands to help find a pressure that's good for you. If you use more than one finger your first time being fingered, without enough lubrication it may hurt. Hey I'm 18 to and I used to finger my self too but I've had sex I know you might think I'm crazy but i love it so much and while I was still a virgin while I used to finger myself and it felt sol good and I was seeing my bf at the time one day my parents when's outa town for a week so I had him came round and it was so wired cuz his parents were out as well so he came round and stayed over we were watching a movie then we started kissing I then felt his hand go up my Thy and then felt his hand go down my shorts next to the zipper and the he started unzipping my shores I was a lottel tense at first but with his left hand he was rubbing my back and touching my boob so that calmed me down he then lied me down on the sofa got on top ofe and pulled my shorts off he then started. Dont worry about it and be sure to relax.
But when it comes to sex, I don't feel much. It went it quite smoothly though it was very tight. I noticed a couple of drops of blood on my underwear after but that's about all. Helpp I am 15 and still a vrigin I was fingered for the first time yesterday he went very hard ans fast I barly new him and now suddenly it is starting to hurt when I pee and i get a slight amount of blood and a burning feel , I do not want to tell my parents but if anyone could help me understand if there's anything wrong with me It sounds like a unitary tract infection, which is when bacteria from his hands or under the fingernails , or just being deep can cause an infection , best thing you can do is go to a doctor and you don't have to say if was sexual , you can just explain the bleeding and burning. Are there at home things I can do to help it go away. And if your a virgin start out with just one finger and if your not wet enough lick his finger that will turn him on, but like i said start off with one finger then eventually you will be loose enough or not as tight to do two.
A female reader, anonymous, writes 21 November 2009 : Heey I am 13 years old , my boy friend has fingered me before. Why does getting fingered feel better than sex? He might not understand what to do or how female anatomy works. Some girls enjoy having their breasts touched at the same time as being fingered, but whatever you try, it is very important that you are 100% comfortable with what you are doing at all times: never let yourself be bullied into trying something that makes you feel uncomfortable. You can also see how it feels if you engage in a sexual activity you know you tend to really like for a while before or after intercourse, or by adding that activity or part of it during intercourse. Today I was fingered by my boyfriend and it was rough, and I don't minpipit rough, but he didn't cut his nails so it was really stinging and scratching me at times, sometimes his fingers weren't even inside of me and he thought the were so he was scratching around my hole which freaking hurt like hell! If something feels good, tell him about it. I feel a little bloated and it hurts to sit but not pee or anything. It's a basic part of human sexuality.
I guess it really depends on the person. For you, right now, it sounds like a partner who really, really wants and likes intercourse and really doesn't like fingering wouldn't be the best fit for you. Next time dont be in the pool when you get fingered. I have not had sex yet but I have done other sexual activities. There are people who engage in both manual sex and intercourse who tend to prefer manual sex, on the whole, or find that usually or always feels physically or emotionally better to them. Cause I can't go to my parents about his. The fingering can add to the stimulation so once he gets good at playing with your clit tell him to slide another finger in and out of your vagina.
Some of what isn't working for you with this might be going to intercourse too early in the relationship, before you and someone have really taken the time to explore other things and find out together what you really like and how that can be incorporated into intercourse. And there is like a little pressure each time it goes in and out. It should go within a few days but is there a cream or something I can use to numb the pain or lighten it? A reader, anonymous, writes 11 July 2009 : when it first happened to me yes it hurt but it was because i wasnt relaxed and i was very nervous and also a virgin, but then we did it again a few nights later and i was relaxed and he took it slow. Sexual experimentation is perfectly normal and all teenagers try different things out before they finally go all the way and have full sexual intercourse. Getting fingered before you have sex is a really good idea cause it can prepare you for having sex, it'll help it not hurt as much.