Love deeply and cherish every moment to the fullest. Always listen and actually hear what the other person is saying. A Great inspiring movie to watch is War Room and FireProof. Be honest be not harsh, and be respectful that he may understand where you are coming from. As lives get busy, this time stays valuable.
Always make time to find ways to make her feel special, beautiful, wanted and loved. Even if you only get a quick out-the-door peck, get your daily dose of spousal affection, no matter what. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and have a 2 year old daughter. Just be sure to stay in prayer, keep God first and if any tension arises always give it to God and let Him fight for you. We work in a school together so I will write it on her white board, or put it on a sticky note attached to her computer screen.
All the little silly, annoying, and downright awful parts of marriage that come out after the rose-colored glasses come off. Your spouse is the one thing that should always be in focus. Men are not as tough as they seem to be on the exterior! Absence makes the heart grow fonder, or something like that. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh. Never let the passion for each other die.
There has been lots of laughter, lots of tears, lots of hugs and lots of intimacy. My next piece of advice is date! At the end of each month calculate your expenses, pay your bills, pay yourself and your savings, and save a bit for a special trip. Remember that neither of you is the parent of the other. Concentrate on the big issues and what will affect your marriage. Love Him more then each other and your marriage will be blessed beyond measure.
Treat each other with respect. So, Every morning, replace the word Love and It with your name. We have 4 handsome, rowdy boys to show for it. Love assumes the best about the other person. Then, every night reflect on this.
For him: If you are in a situation in which you need to choose between your mother or your wife, always choose your wife! Harmful words can be like swords, they can cut deeply and leave scars forever. My husband has worked in radio, as an on-air personality part-time since he was 12. My two pieces of advice are… 1. Try to track every penny, hire a financial planner if it helps, and remember that asking in-laws for loans is a quick way to start fights between you. I tell him when I am worried about the kids or aging parents etc…. Remember to always reconcile and come together after a fight.
Love, love, love each other daily. Best wishes to you both! If you have something to say, say it in private and keep your friends and family guessing. Your children need stable, happy parents and watching you put each other first will have a great impact not only on their childhood, but on what they accept from a partner when they are adults. My best to both of you! Congratulations and Blessings to you both! Always be honest with each other Neither of you should be keeping silent, if something is really upsetting you. Meal planning keeps things simple in the kitchen — especially as your family grows. Go on dates and have fun! Some people say the first year of marriage is the hardest, for my husband and I it took 3-4 years to become fully in sync. Coulkes who play together, always stay together! God's plan for your life is masterfully unique.
A good marriage is the foundation to bring kids in a home that has so much love already. Be willing to accept your spouse as they are, not as you want them to be, realizing that the person you marry today will change. As you add to your family, keep this as family time. Congrats from our family to yours! Also, when you put each other first and continue to date, you will continue to know each other through your journey, so when your kids are grown, you will have grown together, not apart, and you will have rewarding and happy twilight years as well. Here are a few simple but important things we follow. Never give up on each other. Sometimes you will find that sleep will solve the little problems that seemed big at the time all by itself.