Lies have a way of coming out. This means that you and your husband have separate friends, separate interests, don't spend time with each other, and don't really know what's going on in each other's lives. If we didn't have children together, there's no way I'd still be with him. Is faithful, helps with providing to our household exp, we have amazing feelings for each other emotionally and physically. This is not something I'm proud of, but it's part of who I am, and each of these mashed up together in the butter churner of my life to spit me out the other end as the person I am today.
I have a similar situation, minus a common child between us. Do you have a checking or savings account? My husband is not an alcoholic, he can go without drinking for a period of time. If your husband had a bad day at work, for example, he may overreact to a small indiscretion on your part. I stay and hope for a change. I love doing it but he is giving me a frequency on that, and told me once I got pregnant I would have to stop that altogether. He decided to go fishing and then golfing with his brother with out so much as a note, a phone call or anything. You've never felt like cussing someone out and didn't do it? If you frequently find yourself wanting to ignore your husband, talk to him about seeing a qualified marriage counselor.
The bad thing is he uses in our home but I am the person that is disrespectful because I left our home for two months last year hoping it would help him to see that we need to work on our problems. He thinks he is the only person on earth who works 40 hours per week. I have to say I totally agree with this. To be honest, it was a steady decline from the moment we got married literally, from the honeymoon on. In the long run, you want to be separate from him financially and depend on yourself. One of my clients had been married for 22 years to her high sweetheart, and things were.
If you have specific plans to leave, you may find it easier to ask for financial help. Enjoy your treasures you have healthy children ,loving husband and a second chance at a beautiful family life. Be honest, straight forward, polite, and empathetic - try and keep it simple. I have to think of my safety. In a decision as big as whether or not to stay married, it is imperative that you consider the possible ramifications your leaving may have on others, but you must also balance that with your own needs.
Second, if communication isn't occurring in a marriage, its best to seek professional therapy or marriage counciling, before calling it quits. . You will have to decide whether to end the marriage or to put these desires away. Im not setting a good example to my kids because they have heard agrue alot in the past. I guess I truly understand now when people say it's not a choice to be gay or in my case more accurately potentially bisexual , I haven't chosen this, I'm not sure I even want this, I certainly don't want to hurt my husband and yet here I am on the verge of leaving because the feelings are so overwhelmingly strong. I normally share my feelings online since i dont have friends my friends know nothing about this relationship to share what im feeling, it hurts so much but i have to deal with this on my own.
And when I ask him simple questions, I never get a simple answer back. It's time to seek couples counseling, I think. I found out and he cried and begged for forgiveness. Nine months ago we moved to a different State and I started work immediately. Gave up my job when I got pregnant with my second child. I've left before and missed him so much I came back. If you're stressed or unhappy about something, even if it's unrelated to your marriage, this can come out in subtle ways.
This is where my marriage went to hell. The problem is I have grown very tired of it. The longer you wait, the harder it is to leave and the more abuse your kids will see and endure. There are lots of tiny incremental steps she can be taking to explore this that do not involve dumping him and and going out and buying a Subaru and filling the closet full of Burkinstocks and diving head first into the lesbian lifestyle. We have both been trying to recover from this since it happened. He is so angry and hateful. I would of left but he had my purse and keys upstairs in our bedroom where he went and told me I was not allowed in.
Then told him I needed to stay with my parents for a while. My husband has apparent anger issues partly due to being bullied when he was younger. I'll quote Shirley Mac Claine Divorce : Oh! I need to do this for me. Lee for the first time I was scared because I was not sure if what they did went against my religion. I want excitement and I want my friends near me. He has never slept, or eaten with me he just stays cooped up in or basement and he is married to work.
I know he loves me too, however he is so psychologicaly and emotionally damaged by his family mostly his father, who he works with I feel he is brainwashed and the issues there will take a month to explain. Write about how you feel. I will be working, at the least, 20 years more than him. Thanks for all the replies. I want him to leave. Changes are always short-lived before the same patterns return.