In fact, I think that all of his troubles are stemming from not wanting to deal with and overcome any pain that life dishes out to him. Sneaking, messing, spending, ranting, whining, and sleeping in until 2pm. There are always many things to fear. Please help, like normal my husband threatens divorce, says mean things. How can I have let this happen to me?. Dylan, You are definitely not alone as you can see. The verbal and emotional abuse is almost more than I can take.
In my 12 year marriage I finally left with my child with nothing but debt, no job, home, or money. I have chosen to move forward on my own. I was heartbroken and had to make a decision whether to stay or leave, not only for myself but for my children as well. It seems pretty tame after reading all of your posts. That is why they jump from one partner to the next because each time they get a clean slate and a chance to start all over again to see how much the next person will deal with. Whether it be remembered abuse or not.
Humiliation and extreme verbal and even physical abuse have been part of my life. I think it's human nature to gravitate to what we know, what feels comfortable. I wanted to address a couple of things. Think of Your health your well being your sanity God Bless I feel for you. And who knows what his rock bottom is? He wants to drink every Friday. In my 12 year marriage I finally left with my child with nothing but debt; no job, home, or money.
Stay with a safe friend or family member if the alcoholic becomes violent. But my own stupidddddddddddddity and he convinves me to stay the next day statred a chain of events. As he is never completely sober I can't talk to him about it without a row. Living with an alcoholic puts you on an emotional rollercoaster that takes a heavy toll. Thank you for your time spent if you read these words. He seems to have a sense of entitlement to his addiction to crack, and is now blaming everyone around him.
I for one am ready to just leave him alone. I would propose an intervention with a specialist but if you tell him that you are leaving if things do not change, then you have to actually leave or your boundaries will mean nothing to him. However, there are many tools and support groups, such as Al-Anon, available to help you. He tells me he likes to alter his ego and escape himself. God bless all of you.
I left him a month ago for a week. He starts projects but never finishes them. Paula, You sound like a really awesome person. I wanted to texted him so bad minutes ago, ask him if he is ok, how he feels. She drove us drunk, she got in accidents with us in the car, she made us pretty promises when she was drunk and she regularly passed out and missed important events, performances, recitals, track meets, you name it.
I love him but am so angry. His manipulative behavior causes me great anxiety. Im at the end of my rope and not sure where to turn. I just hate him drunk. You just have to keep coming back long enough to find out why they all keep coming. I am doing everything I can to retrieve a normal life. At this point, though, I recognize that this is his call and not mine.
Right now, I live for the good days and endure the bad. I have been married to a functioning alcoholic for 12 years. My wife has painted me as a controlling person, who mentally abused her to friends and family. Consider Al-Anon Family Groups and potentially a sponsor. That was just what I needed to hear. I know this because that is my situation. It is important you show your concern and love for your girlfriend, your moral support will be a comfort to her and will give her the confidence to be honest.