So now we spend at least two days apart and as hard as it can be some days, its actually imporved things alot its helped me not worry as much about my partner and has reactivated both of our social lives and helped us both regain our support network. That being said, being social is also hugely important and can reinforce, if only on very surface levels, your personal sense of validity and satisfaction. It's not that I don't want him to not see him or be with him or anything. I get angry and say ok I won't text you but I never stick to it and I ring him constantly! Even your feelings for him are not based in reality. Need help with your relationship? If deep down you feel alone, disrespected, inferior, or not appreciated enough, then it's your job to fix that problem. She was staring at me and she got scared.
So he said, give it some time to get to the friendship stage. But he is so freaking attractive and before I came along a lot of girls at school liked him and shit. Ending an 8 year relationship because simply I realize we have both burned down the foundation of a healthy relationship. Consumer 6 Posts: 354 Joined: Tue Aug 23, 2011 3:57 pm Local time: Mon Feb 18, 2019 11:04 am Blog:. Michelle Hi Michelle, I'm not the original poster but I really appreciate your words. Never let fear be a reason to love or be with someone that is why you feel shame. He never wants to do things that I like.
There's always gonna be memories and thoughts attacking you but you are better than that. Its going to hurt, get over it. We get attached to people or things, or jobs, whatever and they consume us. I hate feeling this way. I even buy the clothes she wears in those pictures. And I told him that he was absolutely right, I would not of dated him, I would not of liked him so fast, I would of been his friend and been more cautious. He even came to fetch me to sit in his office with hil like a weird woman amongst men but he didnt care.
Make allowance for some space It is important that you give yourself some time to cool off. I just need to stop thinking about bad things. She seems so perfect — beautiful, ridiculous body, great job, lots of friends, successful, the list goes on and on. I feel the same I hurting so much in my relationship. More so, we are in a long distance relationship, but we've seen each other every month, and we've made plans to move in together as soon as I move to where he is.
Is there medication for this? And at night time, I used to stay up all night talking to him on msn. I get obsesses then after about an hour of being like that i distract myself and im fine, then i feel bad. A confident successful happy you is much more attractive than a sad needy dependant you. Simply put, you do your half of the relationship and he does his. I use to get mad but he dont bother up. Don't annoy him with repeated phone calls or messages', being pestered is something no man likes.
I've been married for 12 years yet iv been lonely miserable unhappy. Hey kids shake it loose together the spotlights hitting something thats been know to change the weather. So please, realize I'm trying to make a change and I'm aware of how terrible this is. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. Here are a few tips to get you going.
Do you want to stop thinking about him all day long and do you want him back by your side? Or if that is not possible, write to him, convey your love to him, but before anything else, apologise to him. I have tried to end it so many times, on nice terms but he doesn't seem to get it that i really can't be with him anymore. I was with my ex for almost 3 years and was never like this. I would be frightened of you. I knew a girl I was interested in who was an obsessive though I found that out later.
What problems did you have the caused the break up in the first place? Not my most favorite thoughts. Was going to consider one as well, hoping for some medicine to relieve me of this awfulness. I told him, hey, I did everything for you, Now I want to be myself, Im hot, im going somewhere in life now, I need to know if your commited, if not I need a guy who is. I had a long abusive relationship. I don't like my mom but I have to live with her until I get my job and move out to go live on the base. I know I am being too obsessed but I cant help myself this post made me realized and happy to know that I am not the only one obsessing with their bf.
Be honest and clear when you talk to him, your entire personality should be in tandem with your words. His real mom lives far away and his real dad has a new life with his new wife and son. That made it worse Idk why I forgave him but that pain won't go away and I hold grudge toward him. I went through that with my ex. At other times though I try my best to please him so he wont leave and or cheat on me. Treat him as fellow human beings, not spoilt princesses or indeed submissive slaves.