I however actually like my own question. I'm not worried about stating my feelings here and I'm not worried about whether I'm passing judgment on what they have done. However, I'm in a position where I am now going to have to move. In the past, whenever we would get into an argument, he would become physically violent. Once it is dealt with and over, no more digging it back up. Sex is rare but feels like a duty not a pleasure.
But nothing could be further from the vibrational truth! Any because people are judged so harshly when they cheat many have to live with guilt and negative feelings, and lost friends and have no outlet for that because they are the one who caused the pain, so they don't get to claim that they have any. He does not want to work. But he's still okay with me. While we may not understand — and may never understand — it is my personal opinion that it is not whether or not we hurt others in this life that defines us, but how we react to hurting them. My dad stayed with my mom till i graduated high school and packed his things on graduation day.
I truly hope you two can make this marriage work better than it ever has. Leave Jake in that pile. A surprising number of great romancers out there never get around to having sex. I have been with my husband for a long time, and the best way I could characterize our relationship is as good friends. I never wanted to hurt him and for a long time I figured that I better become a better person and change because my morals were lacking.
And yet we are supposed to 'friends' now. Leave Jake in that pile. My husband was not a bad person, but we have been through so much financially over the last 10 years, I just never felt secure and anything he said or did. At one time or another, almost every married person I know including my husband and me has questioned whether or not to call it quits. I was never unfaithful to my wife. They say, the majority of divorces filed by woman today are flied because they are currently involved in an affair.
The one good thing I can say is that he is a great dad he treats our son completely differently but when it comes to me he will yell at me and degrade me for leaving a wet rag in the sink instead of hanging it up. We slept together, in an innocent way, every night. Your no commitments relationship is perfect for him to go to. Just that I had thought it was my one and only marriage when I entered into it 2 things, Hetti: I'm not sure why you're not able to be with your kids, but think of all the incarcerated mothers who have committed actual crimes they severely regret and will never be with their children. We started going for tea or coffee at work.
Hoping for advice from people who have been in this situation. We came together because we needed each other, but we are not in love with each other. However, the guilt that you talk about is tremendous for me. At that point her mileage and baggage are too high, and she gets a cat or a few cats because nobody wants anything to do with her. The nights my kids aren't with me I miss them every single minute. He is only a guy, a fallible guy, just like us all. I knew one of the relationships should end.
My kids can drive me crazy but I still want to be there for all of the insane and hair pulling moments. But still deep down you feel he was made for you and you for him. I don't even remember what romance is or even a meal at a table together, let alone sex. This other man is way more attentive, caring, and he's jealous which my husband never was I think Bc he never loved me. You are disloyal and broke a commitment you made to your husband and if he felt anything like I did when my future ex wife left me then you deserve any pain you get.
He has ptsd and back issues which he says is why he is always cranky towards me and our three young kids. My husband is a wonderful person and does alot around the house to help me. I want to leave so bad but with no money no car and a young son finding a way out is going to be hard, I explained my problem to my friend and she suggested that I should rather contact a love spell doctor that could help me cast a spell to make him change and treat me well, I am the type that never believed in such, but I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the love spell doctor, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my husband will change, he went ahead to cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4 pm. We all Bleed the Same. I just wanted to say thank you for telling your story. Early February 2017, I discovered my hubby cheated on me for the past 3 and the half years.